TAKING ON TRADITION

There are so many wedding traditions those before us would have adhered to as if it were law.  Weddings have never been more personal. However, some traditions are so lovely we might just  keep them around. Here are a few popular ones – we’ll let you decide which ones to take on

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What you wear
Queen Victoria wore white on her wedding day in 1840, sparking the trend in the western world; before then, women just wore their best dress. Engagement and wedding rings are worn on the fourth finger of the left hand because it was once thought that a vein in that finger led directly to the heart. Diamonds only became popular as a choice for an engagement ring after an advertising campaign in the 1900s. So many of the traditions linked to your outfit actually don’t have much meaning at all – so wear something that you love.
Matching bridesmaids’ dresses
In ancient Rome, everyone in the bridal party, bride included, wore matching outfits, to confuse other suitors or evil spirits trying to get to the bride – essentially your bride tribe were your decoys. These days it is not uncommon for bridesmaids to wear alternating, or completely different attire. And when every woman, and man, is a different size and shape, it makes a lot of sense to mix things up.

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The first look
Back when arranged marriages were the norm, the engaged couple wasn’t allowed to see each other before the wedding at all. The event symbolised a business deal between two families, and the father of the bride feared that if the groom met the bride before the wedding and didn’t think she was attractive, he would call off the nuptials. Now it’s more of a superstition, a bad omen. If you’re not one to believe in superstitions or outdated practices, you might want to meet up with your partner before the vows, enjoying the moment in solitude and getting a few happy snaps.
Being given away
Being walked down the aisle and ‘given away’ to your groom by your father is a nod to the days where women were seen as property. Fast forward a few hundred or so years and this tradition is so much looser. Want to be given away by your dad? Great. Want to be given away by your mum? Also fine. Want to be given away by both? Why not! Or maybe it’s your grandparents, your brother, your bestie, or maybe you want to just walk down the aisle by yourself. Make your entrance whatever you want it to be.

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Something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue
This Victorian rhyme is a tradition supposed to bring the bride good luck. Something old alludes to retaining connection with family once entering married life. Something new represents the new union. Something borrowed is an opportunity for friends or family to lend something special as a token of love. Something blue represents fidelity and constancy. If you are going the extra mile, you can carry a sixpence in your shoe, to bring a life filled with good fortune. And, let’s be honest, who doesn’t want that?
Financials
The tradition of the bride’s family paying for the big day stems back to concept of a dowry – a sum paid to the groom for becoming the provider for the bride. Now that women can provide for themselves, it’s more of a flexible gesture. Spend and accept money only when comfortable.

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REAL WEDDING

JESSICA + SAMUEL

LOVE STORY
Jessica Smith put her late grandmother’s wedding ring and her late great-grandmother’s wedding ring on her right hand on her wedding day, something special to honour family who could not be there. Samuel Dangerfield waited a top of a hang gliding launch pad at Moggs Creek, when Jess was led down the aisle by her parents to say “I do” with the sweeping views of Aireys Inlet and Lorne on show. “It is somewhere Sam and his family really treasure so it was very special having it up there, even with a bit of wind,” Jess says. “It was amazing to see the guests’ reactions to the ceremony location, it was so special.” The reception, at a Surf Coast venue, was a continuation of a joyous day and night. “For the both of us, watching everyone else have so much fun and being so happy for us was so special – it was such a happy and fun wedding,” Jess says.
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GIFTING BACK

Weddings can be beautiful, grand, and such a special day to celebrate.
Love is all around, and you and your nearest and dearest are eating well, drinking well, and there are plenty of congratulatory hugs and of course, many of your guests will adorn you with a gift or two.
For those looking to spread the love a little further, there are so many ways to give back to those who need it most.
Many not for profit organisations offer ways for people to incorporate a donation into your wedding.

Save the Children,
a worldwide children advocacy organisation, offers a simple way to contribute.
Couples can ask their guests to make a donation to Save the Children Australia instead of, or on top of, buying a gift for you.
A personalised online donation page can include photos and information about your special event. The link can then be easily emailed to your friends and family.
Your loved ones can leave you messages of support and congratulations along with their donation to Save the Children Australia.
Interested brides and grooms can email events@savethechildren.org.au to organise the donation as the amount donated per guest is up to the bride and groom. Save The Children asks for a minimum donation of $3.50 per guest.

There are many other charities that also accept donations in honour of your weddings, so you can most certainly choose to support the cause of your choice.
Bonbonnieres are a cute way to say thank you to each guest for coming to your nuptials. But let’s face it, many get left behind, unused or forgotten about.

The Starlight Children’s Foundation makes Starlight Wedding Favours, a way to thank your guests with a personalised donation to help bring fun and laughter to seriously ill children in hospital.
From just $4 per guest, every Starlight Wedding Favour includes a personalised 90x52mm card with a silver or gold Starlight pin.
They come in a range of designs from classic and sparkly, to elegant and fun.
So much more meaningful than a cookie.
CLICK HERE to find out more.


Dementia Australia,
a supporter of more than 400,000 Australians suffering from the disease, offers a similar service.
The charity has a $5 awareness pin and personalised card, a wonderful way to support those with the disease and honour those no longer with you on your wedding day.
Call 1300 636 679 or email fundraising@dementia.org.au to make an inquiry.

The Asylum Seeker Resource Centre, which provides support services, including food, healthcare and employment, to asylum seekers, offers both a donation page or a wedding favour.
CLICK HERE or email events@asrc.org.au to find out more.

Many more charities offer these kinds of services; so do your research and find one that aligns with what you’re passionate about, making your wedding even more about love.

REAL WEDDING

SALLY + SEAN

LOVE STORY
Sally Mayberry and Sean Wride met while at university and have been inseparable ever since. “I love way she walks, talks and just is,” says Sean. “Sean tells me he loves me and that I am beautiful every day, and I mean every day for the last 11 years – that’s something very special,” Sally adds. Sean proposed on Lake Ashi in Japan, with Mount Fuji as the backdrop. “Sean had planned this moment for the better part of six months to make sure everything was perfect,” Sally says. “It was unbelievable and I hold Japan close to my heart.” The pair opted to take their closest family and friends on a magical trip to lush forest in the Dandenong Ranges for their nuptials. “It felt special to be able to take our guests to somewhere so beautiful and then spend the entire weekend with everyone,” Sally remembers with happiness. “The day was just perfect.”
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SWEET DREAMS

There is nothing better than waking up well rested after a long, peaceful night of sleep.
However, with a wedding to plan added to the daily stresses of work, family and other commitments, sleep can often take a back seat.
Sleep coach Cheryl Fingleson explains prioritising a good night’s rest is extremely important.
“New sleep research shows one in five Australians take three or more sick days a year because of exhaustion,” she says.
“The cost to employers is $3.7 billion a year, according to the 2018 Sealy Sleep Census, and it’s only set to get worse.”
She has developed some methods and techniques to make sure you get ample beauty sleep to make sure you are rested and feeling your best on your big day.

Take a sleep audit

Over the next few days, make a note of when you go to sleep, when you wake up and rate your quality of sleep out of ten. Don’t rely on a phone app, smart watch or fitness tracker to do this job. Keep electronics out of your sleep space and use pen and paper.
Note down when you drink caffeinated drinks; refined carbohydrates or junk food. Record what exercise you do and when, as well as how much time you spend outside in sunlight. In the evening, record how long you spend on a screen and when you turn them off.
Have a look at your wind down routine: do you meditate, shower or read before bed? Then observe your sleep space: is your bedroom very cluttered; do you have light blocking blinds or curtains; is there a lot of noise; is your room or bedding too hot or too cold?
And this is a big one: in the middle of the night, how many times do you reach to check your phone?

Make sleep your number one priority

Obesity, type 2 diabetes and other chronic and often deadly health conditions are linked to inadequate sleep so it’s really important to make it a priority.

Now you know what your bad and good habits are, you can take some proactive first steps, including:
1. No caffeine after midday; follow a healthy, low-refined carbohydrate diet, avoid junk food and sugary foods, especially in the evening.
2. Consider your exercise routine: if you sleep badly after working out in the evening, hit the gym earlier in the day.

3. Get out in natural sunlight once a day for at least twenty minutes to help reset your body clock.
4. Go to bed and wake up at the same time, seven days a week. Studies show a sleep debt from the week can’t be paid off at the weekend.
5. Have an electronic sunset in the evening: dim the lights, lower the noise, no screens at least an hour before bed. Don’t binge watch television shows late into the night.
6. Make your sleep space conducive to rest. Don’t use heavy, hot bed covers; keep the temperature around 18 to 20 degrees; keep out artificial and natural lights.

7. Write a worry list an hour before bed. If you wake up in the night with your mind racing, transferring them onto paper can help remove them from your thoughts.
8. If you struggle to get to sleep, or wake up in the night and can’t get back to sleep, go and do something else away from your bed. Don’t stay there tossing and turning and stressing. Read a book in the lounge. Don’t go on your phone.
9. Keep phones out of the bedroom. I can’t stress this enough. Checking emails, social media or texts in the middle of the night is one of the main culprits for sleep disturbance.
10. Lastly, sleep well – your body and bank balance will thank you.

REAL WEDDING

HARRIET + ANDREW

LOVE STORY
“Easily the first look,” is Harriet Fist’s instant reaction when asked what her favourite memory of her wedding day. She first laid eyes on Andrew Rhodes when assigned a seat next to him in year 8. “A friendship began and a deep connection which has grown and evolved ever since,” she says. “I love Andy’s sense of humour and his patience – never before have I met such a humble and patient soul.” Harriet named her groom’s late sister as her bridesmaid, and honoured her further by releasing a balloon at the end of their ceremony in her memory. “It was a beautiful moment to share and a special way to acknowledge and include our sister in our day,” Harriet says. “The photos from that moment will be cherished forever.”


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CHEERS TO THAT

Looking for a signature cocktail for your engagement, hen’s, or big day?
Lovers of the classic gin and tonic can be inspired by some of these recipes.
To keep the calories down, Australia beverage brand, Nexba, has developed sugar free tonic to add to your mixes.
Choose your favourite flavour and enjoy.

Blueberry G&T

Superfood cocktails… Blueberries are absolutely packed with antioxidants, but if you’re feeling adventurous, try adding in a teaspoon of butterfly pea powder. Butterfly pea powder is made by grinding organic butterfly pea flowers. Its health benefits are similar to that of green tea, antioxidants, increased immunity, supporting heart health and boosting metabolism. Aside from the health benefits, mixing butterfly pea powder with lemon juice creates a beautiful blue-purple. It’s the perfect natural alternative to food colouring.

Serves 3

Ingredients
2 1/2 cups tonic water
3 shots gin
3/4 cup frozen blueberries, plus extra to garnish
1 tsp butterfly pea powder, optional
1 tbsp lemon juice
1 handful ice cubes
A few mint leaves, to garnish

Method
Firstly mix butterfly pea powder (if using) and lemon juice in a small bowl.
Transfer to a large jar and add all remaining ingredients, except garnish.
Pour into glasses and garnish with mint leaves and additional blueberries.
Serve and enjoy.

Rosemary grapefruit tonic

A delicious, fruity cocktail, or mocktail.

Serves 4

Ingredients
2 1/2 cups tonic water
4 shots gin (optional)
2 cups fresh grapefruit juice
1 cup ice cubes
Rosemary sprigs and additional grapefruit to garnish

Method
Combine all ingredients (except rosemary and grapefruit to garnish) in a large jar and mix.
Pour into glasses and garnish with rosemary sprigs and fresh grapefruit.
Serve with ice and enjoy!
If you prefer a slightly sweeter beverage, add in some freshly squeezed orange juice to balance out the bitterness of the grapefruit.

Pine lime G&T

If you’re feeling extra fancy, serve this one in a pineapple cup, simply by scooping out the pineapple flesh and adding in your beverage.

Serves 2

Ingredients
1 cup pineapple juice (or Nexba pineapple sparkling infusion)
1 cup Nexba lime, cucumber and mint tonic water
2 shots gin
1 tbsp lime juice
1 handful ice cubes
Lime and mint for garnish

Method
Combine all ingredients (except garnish) in a large jar and mix.
Pour into mason jars and garnish with lime and mint.
Serve and enjoy!

REAL WEDDING

ERIN + JOSHUA

Erin Kennedy and Joshua Laing, a dietitian and a doctor, were great friends before realising there was a spark. The pair relish in the fact they are such different people who are still so perfectly matched. “Josh is more adventurous, whereas I tend to be more grounded,” explains Erin. “At the core of our relationship is a strong friendship, a love for animals and we both a strong value for our family and friends.” The pair, with the help of Josh’s cousin Thea, styled much of their marquee wedding on the Bellarine. Erin remembers the delight of being able to the make the celebration a true representation of them, choosing or designing every element. The couple, who love travelling and exploring the world together, headed to Sri Lanka for their blissful honeymoon.



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REAL WEDDING

LAURA + CAMERON

DATE TO REMEMBER
When Cameron Alford and Laura Schram first kissed as husband and wife they could not help but beam with joy. The couple has been through a life-changing couple of years, with Laura diagnosed with cancer during her third pregnancy in 2016. Children Jasper, Ivy and Alfie held the wedding rings in their hands for a few moments and handed them to their parents to exchange. “We wanted everyone special in our lives there to celebrate and who more special than our three babies,” says Laura. “The second I saw Laura all I could think was how lucky we both were to be here,” Cam says. “It was the happiest I’ve been and the best day to top off such a stressful few years. She looked so beautiful and just beamed light.”For more imagery, including a full list of suppliers, CLICK HERE.

ELEGANCE FOR ALL

Dress: Fontaine

THE talented team at One Day Bridal has done it again with a collection celebrating all women.
La Bella Donna features the newest range of curve gowns.
Each curve gown has been specifically designed with bust support and enhanced structure.
This diverse range of wedding gowns and fashion accessories make from new, exclusive fabrics developed by the Chosen team.
The mirrored fabric of sequins and pearls in three colour variations, white, rose gold and silver is a standout.
Stunning pieces in soft lace, pleated tulle and bonded georgette complete the collection.
Shot with enchanting Capri, Italy as the backdrop, each gown shines.
This is modern bridal at its best.
Email enquires@loveoneday.com.au or call 03 9686 7744 to view the La Bella Donna collection by Chosen.

Dress: Remy

Dress: Hayes Bandeau

Dress: Emmer

Jacket: Huntley

Dress: Jones

Skirt: Millie

Dress: Loren

Dress: Kennedy

Dress: Byron

Gowns: Chosen by One Day
Campaign photography: Emily Abay
Look book photography: Jessica Apap
Hair and Makeup: Monica Gingold Beauty
Styling and creative direction: Kyha Simpson and Stephanie Neilsen, assisted by Stephanie Bartels