Whether you have one or 10, bridesmaid selection is the big proposal you might have forgotten about. Choosing a bridesmaid squad as strong as Taylor Swift’s girl squad takes a lot of thought
The big proposal has happened, but now you have to pop the question to someone else. You need to choose your bridal party.
You’re about to walk down the aisle to marry the love of your life – but who is going to stand by you to hold your bouquet, ensure you don’t trip on your train and plan the best hens day ever? Choosing your bridesmaids is a big decision. From the size of your bridal party to who makes the cut, there are many things to consider.
The bridal party
How many bridesmaids and groomsmen are you going to have? Do you want an even amount of bridesmaids to groomsmen?
Do you want to have a big bridal party or do you want to keep it simple with a smaller selection?
If you have a big family or group of friends, or both, it can be tricky to single out that select few who will be closest to you when you walk down the aisle.
This is a good opportunity to talk to your groom-to-be to nut out how intimate or big the bridal party should be.
Choosing a good maid of honour is key.
The maid of honour is the leader of the pack, your right-hand-woman so-to-speak.
Her responsibility is to do a lot of planning to make your day the best it can be. Choosing someone who is organised could save a lot of stress and time down the track.
Selecting the extended bridal party
The best kind of bridesmaid to have around is one that is helpful, supportive and agreeable.
Will they wear their hair the way you want it?
Will they wear the colour and style dress of your choice without complaint?
Who do you see being a part of your life for the rest of your life? Because those wedding photos will potentially be on display in your home forever.
Money can be another factor to consider.
Do you expect your bridesmaids to pay for certain parts of their look? Can they afford it?
Ensuring all bridesmaids will be able to fulfil financial expectations is important to avoid any awkwardness between you later.
Considering how your bridesmaids will get along is another factor to consider, however, they are there for your big day, so hopefully this is not an issue.
How to break the news
Asking your select few to be bridesmaids at your wedding is hopefully a joyous moment.
It is an invitation to intimately share one of the biggest days of your life.
Inevitably there will be people in your life who expected to be asked to be a part of your bridal party but for whatever reason have not; you could have grown apart, you could have decided to only ask family.
Although it can be stressful to think you might upset people by not asking them, it is important to remember it is your day, and your choice.